I’m finding this to be more and more true, especially as the election season wears on. I am so glad I am selective about who I choose to interact with through social media. Today I got a glimpse into some of the things that are being said among the less selective and it is not pretty. At all.
We all know someone who has gone out and made a complete idiot of himself or herself utilizing social media. MySpace was the original home of incriminating photos and all kinds of other foolishness, but these days, it’s all about Facebook and Twitter. I’ve seen people incriminate themselves in so many ways on both. According to the Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (yep, the divorce attorneys), 81 percent of their members have used or faced evidence pulled from social media (including MySpace, Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, and YouTube) over the past five years. Here are some of the highlights.
— Husband goes on Match.com and declares his single, childless status while seeking primary custody of said nonexistent children.
— Husband denies anger management issues but posts on Facebook in his “write something about yourself” section: “If you have the balls to get in my face, I’ll kick your ass into submission.”
— Father seeks custody of the kids, claiming (among other things) that his ex-wife never attends the events of their young ones. Subpoenaed evidence from the gaming site World of Warcraft tracks her there with her boyfriend at the precise time she was supposed to be out with the children. Mom loves Facebook’s Farmville, too, at all the wrong times.
— Mom denies in court that she smokes marijuana but posts partying, pot-smoking photos of herself on Facebook. (I have personally seen some people mess themselves up with so-called party photos. There IS such a thing as too much information. )
I’m not so sure about the wisdom of airing domestic disputes regularly on Facebook. One or two, maybe, but hitting up the laptop whenever you need to vent? Just call me old fashioned, but something tells me that having outside folks routinely chime in on personal drama is bound to have some negative consequences.