The talk and that O chick.

April 14, 2009

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birdsandbees3 Some time in the past two weeks I heard they were going to tell people how to have “the talk” about the birds and bees/facts of life with their children. Having survived a couple of rounds of “the talk” with Al on a consultant basis (his father took the lead role here, which I commend him for because his parents never talked to him about it), I thought I would see if there was anything that I was missing. Well, according to the expert, the talk (to young ladies) should include the world of self love and possibly a supporting device. There was also the assertion that this would thwart women “falling prey” to some guy and having a bad outcome. I am a firm believer in teaching kids the truth about their bodies, truly, but I heard the brakes screeching in my head when stocking up the adult toy box came into play.

I think that the real information that will save girls from “falling prey” to no good men or whatever, is teaching them to choose people who are good for them and teaching them to leave alone people who are not. All the vibrators in the world will not help anybody who has no moral compass, no relationship standards or expectations. You can stimulate a part (or two) of your anatomy until you feel really really good. Ok. Can you relate to other people? Can you resolve conflict? Can you look out for yourself? Can you make demands when your interests need to be protected? Can you negotiate and receive benefits and make sacrifices for the good of the group and not be bitter? Can you cut bait or at least distance yourself when the people around you prove themselves toxic? No? Ok…

It is a beautiful part of life, but I think parents need to get real with their children and tell them about the meaning behind the stuff that happens before and after the sex. What do you think?

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7 responses to “The talk and that O chick.”

glory

April 14, 2009

My mom and I talked about the “before, after, why, and why not” much more than we did the “how”. The how is biological and simple to explain. It’s that other mental and emotional stuff that gets the kids caught up, especially the girls. I think that if you talk about the other stuff, the biological may be more easily avoided until a young person is mature enough to make better decisions because they have more information than put peg B into slot A. At least that’s what happened with me. I also think most young people will stumble upon self gratification on their own – their parent’s job is to help them understand what that is and what to think about it. I ain’t giving my unborn any tools.

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glory

April 14, 2009

And, funny picture!

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tjsthings

April 14, 2009

That’s how it happened with me, too. *Sigh of relief* It’s not just me. 🙂

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ebony

April 14, 2009

I’m with you all the way. I half watched the show and thought it was kind of silly. The details is nothing, how to handle yourself diffently from what they see on Jerry Springer, For the Love of Ray J and similar shows is the talk that matters.
And I’m not going to teach my kids that self love causes your fingers to fall off, but I draw the line at giving them toys.

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Diva (in Demand)

April 14, 2009

The following Friday on her panel show, Gail commented that she too disagreed with the notion of stocking the war chest for the kids, BUT….what really stood out to her was that the young girls said what they really wanted their parents to talk to them about was LOVE and the feelings that go along with sex.

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tjsthings

April 14, 2009

Ebony,
The “how not to be a hot booty mess” talk is priceless and much needed.

Diva in Demand,
What if girls could learn all about their bodies, the feelings that go along with them and how men really think? They could conquer the world!

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