A note about closure.

GAW Lesson #120 – Sometimes closure consists of one person locking a door and walking away.

Today I was reading Chuck and Garland. They were addressing a lady who was dealing with a situation. Basically, a guy she had a great date with had not called her back and she was wondering if dude wasn’t into her. Now, we know if you have to ask that question, 999 times out of 1000 the answer is DUDE IS NOT INTO YOU. She, of course, wanted to know what happened, she wanted closure, rather she wanted two party closure. Of course Chuck and Garland gave her great advice concerning all of that.

But sometimes, closure is a one person activity. Sometimes, closure is, “You have shown me that you are not interested in keeping in touch, much less pursuing a worthwhile friendship or relathionship. I accept that and continue on.” Sometimes closure is, “Yeah, you slighted me, but my life is bigger than this, so peace be unto you.” Do you know I know this chick who is still bitter with this other chick who has been DEAD OVER TWENTY YEARS? Over a slight that the person who is on the other end may not have even been cognizant? It’s madness. But that’s what happens when people don’t put on their big girl/big boy drawls.

Closure is also, “I love you Mom/Dad/Cousin Pete, but your dysfunctional hand me downs end here.” Bad feelings come back every now and then, but they just don’t have the power to interfere with the business of living once these things are put to rest.

Even if it is put to rest by the will of one person.

That’s just what I have learned.