The Rule of 10-10-10

Why is it that most of the women I know (myself included) all want it all RIGHT NOW? Why is it not possible to have it all EVER? LOL. It’s possible to LOOK LIKE ONE HAS IT ALL, and then two weeks later learn of his/her impending divorce/kids in jail/career downfall, but it is not possible to have it all. So how do you figure out what is most important? A few months ago, I read about the rule of 10-10-10. If a person is facing a big dilemma or other drama, said person can look at how a decision will impact life ten minutes from now, ten months from now and ten years from now.
The last few days, I’ve been giving some people way too much time/attention/energy when ten months from now, I’ll be like, “really? who is that?” LOL. And ten years from now? Shoot. Lord willing, I’ll be putting Al through college and getting ready for Nat to start. Being the voice of guidance as they get their undergrad, grad educations, and start their adult lives. Little A will be starting to deal with puberty, (I’m sure her father can’t wait) and the baby will be getting ready to deal with puberty. I will have obtained another degree and reentered the workforce. And where will the offending parties will be? Who cares? I know I wont. So, I was like, how about I stop caring ten months or years early? And I did.
I also applied it to decide to call a friend of mine I had lost contact with. I decided that I really wanted her to be around in ten years, instead of regretting having lost contact. It has helped me to determine what kinds of activities are really important in my kids’ lives, as opposed to things that only serve outward appearances.
I’m the type of person who usually draws out these kinds of decisions and this process makes them a lot shorter for me, so I thought I’d share.